Monday, December 11, 2006

chivalry

Josh is always a gentleman—and not just because I'm pregnant—he always has been. He prefers to open doors for me (and holds it for others), helps me with my coat, and so on. I've come to anticipate it from him, but not expect it from others who always seem so micro-focused on their own little world. Saturday, I was shown that chivalry is not yet dead.

Josh, two of our friends, and I went out to dinner at a nice italian restaurant called Carrabba's. Even though we had call-ahead seating there was a 20 – 30 minute wait for our table (as opposed to a 2 hour wait if you hadn't called ahead). Who would wait that long is beyond me—but I digress. While we were standing in the waiting area anticipating the buzz of our freaky coaster calling card, some gentleman (who had been sitting nearby in the waiting area) came up to me and asked me if I'd like to sit down. The benches were completely full and this guy offered to give up his seat to me just because of my current blooming condition! I declined his offer and thanked him for his kindness, but I couldn't help but smile at the thought that chivalry doesn't just run in my social circle.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

When my wife was like 7 months pregnant (and very pregnant, at that), we were at a restaurant, and no one on the one bench in the waiting area would offer her a seat. Plus, the waitress kept passing by and bumping into her, and getting rude. Not much chivalry in the world. You got lucky. I'd give up my seat.

Jen said...

It definitely has it's advantages. I didn't realize that until I went out to dinner several times with a friend of mine who was expecting. We always got seated IMMEDIATELY. I hadn't expected that, and was quite surprised.

Beebers said...

i love hearing things like this! i'm trying to teach my poor husband, and he's polite, but definitely not chivalrous. it's extremely obvious when we go to TX.

my favorite thing is when my dad stands every time one of us (mom, sister or me) leaves or returns to the dinner table. tim doesn't ever remember it though!

Holly {ArtistMotherTeacher} said...

TF—That was sort of my point. Most people suck. Then there are people like Josh, that guy, and you.

Jen—It was a little embarassing, but a nice gesture. I'm not one of those "weak" women.

Beebers—Your Dad sounds old school. That is awesome.

Mr. Fab—I had the Sirloin Marsala which was like meat butter. So good. The waitress did mention the Chicken Trio as one of the specials. Sounded yummy but the steak kicked major tastebud ass.

Cupcake Blonde said...

beebers - I love when men stand for women, such a nice sign of respect.

My hubby is very chivalrous when it comes to me, but he sometimes forgets about extending it to other people. I need to give him gentle reminders.

Naynayfazz said...

That is very nice. I, too, smile when people are nice. It is rare these days, but it happens. I agree with Jacob, you were lucky.

DutchBitch said...

So... did you get his DNA for me?

Lynda said...

I stood up once to give my seat to an older gentleman, and a young person came in behind me and took the seat. I was so mad.

I am glad there is still chilvary in the world. Dan opens doors for me, but in recent years, I close them. lol.